Signs of Un-Healthy Boundaries
Trusting no one/ trusting anyone.
Black and white thinking.
Talking at an intimate level at first meeting.
Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.
Being overwhelmed by a person, preoccupied.
Acting on first impulse.
Being sexual for your partner, not yourself.
Going against personal values to please others.
Not noticing when another displays inappropriate boundaries.
Not noticing when another invades your boundaries.
Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex, that you don’t want.
Touching a person without asking.
Taking as much as you can for the sake of getting.
Giving as much as you can for the sake of giving.
Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.
Letting others define you.
Believing others can anticipate your needs.
Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
Self abuse. Sexual and physical abuse. Food abuse.
Withdrawing from others without letting them know.
Walking around on eggshells.
Complaining about aches and pains.