Posted by: RealisticRecovery | February 22, 2009

The 12 Steps of Realistic Recovery – Re-post

I have a deep spiritual belief in Reality, and Rational Thinking . I have chose to see Reality as my “Higher Power”,  since it was Reality I was trying to deny and escape from with my addictions.  Reality is what I need to face and  submit to in order to honestly recover. This is the version I personally felt I needed to write in order for me to participate in 12-Step recovery.

12 Steps of Realistic Recovery

1. I can no longer deny I have an addiction, and admit my addiction can make me feel powerless, and that my choices and decisions while unaware or in denial of my addiction were destructive.
2. I came to believe that  realistic and rational thinking could restore me from the insanity of addictive thinking.
3. I will let myself be helped by myself and others by using realistic and rational thinking and will never again turn my will and life over to addictive thinking.
4. I will make a realistic and rational evaluation or “inventory” of my thoughts, feelings and behaviors, both positive and negative. This is not to induce guilt and shame, but to evaluate where my attitudes, actions and decisions were not realistic or rational.
5. I will now admit to myself, the exact nature of my thoughts, feelings and behaviors, both positive and negative. I will share and review this evaluation with another willing person if I choose, unless where to do so would put myself or others at risk.
6. I am entirely ready to allow realistic and rational thinking to reveal my destructive patterns of addictive thinking.
7. I will apply realistic and rational thinking to replace my addictive thinking.
8. I will make a list of all person’s I have harmed, or been harmed by, in a way that might have enabled my addictive thinking.
9. I will take the responsibility of making amends and give the opportunity of receiving amends, except when to do so would put myself or others at risk.
10. I will continue to evaluate my life, and when my thoughts, feelings and behaviors are not realistic or rational, I will promptly admit it.
11. I will seek to improve my conscious awareness of reality, striving for the knowledge of what is real and rational and for the ability and determination to stop my addictive thinking.
12. Having had progress towards a realistic and rational self-awareness away from addictive thinking as a result of what I have accomplished with these principles, I shall practice these principles in all areas of my life, and will be willing to share these principles with others who think they might gain from them.



  1. Hi,

    I am glad you have found something that is working for you. One thing that I noticed is that 11 of your 12 start with ‘I’. Have you ever given thought to why the original 12 steps starts with ‘We’ and never mentions the word ‘I’? I am just throwing this out there, not implying or finding fault with spiritual matters…but the ‘I’ vs. ‘We’ concept is important in recovery and not mentioned or thought about all that often.



  2. Hey Bill, thanks for the input.
    To tell you the truth, all the “I”‘s was done intentionally.
    It was done as if I was kind of writing a recovery contract for myself that basically I could print out , sign it, and hang it on my fridge to face everyday.
    It’s not meant to be egotistical or self-centered (as in, “I” am the higher power of the universe), but to make myself responsible and accountable for my own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

    I’m afraid in the future , this will be known as the generation that needed “bailing out”, where everybody from CEO’s and Bankers to first-time homeowners were not held accountable when their actions were proved to be “unmanageable”. I think this will be known to future generations as the “recovery era” for more reasons than one.

    It’s important to me to be held accountable for both my addictions and my recovery.

    Having said that, I will check the Big Book for the reason they use “We”. Never really thought about it before, I always thought it was because their were two of them at first that wrote the Steps. But I will look into it.

    Thanks again for the input.

    Mike H

  3. The we is used cause we do this program together.Yes as individuals we are responsible for our recovery.Its is the 12 Steps of a we program.You did not invent it.It is a program that is not done alone and you must give back for it to work.

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